Do you ever wonder: “Am I the only person in the world who struggles with sticking to routines and processes?”
The short answer is ‘NO!’
Over the years, I’ve wondered: “How come I am so great at sticking to certain routines and not to others?“
Earlier this week, I had a discussion with a very ambitious and smart lady precisely on this topic.
She elaborated: “I’m not sure whether that’s a fear of success at play or just a rebellion against rules and boredom… Any advice?”
This business owner found my advice incredibly helpful. So, I want to share it with you, too, in case you’re wondering that same question and want to find out how to turn the situation around.
From experience with many clients over the years, there are a few things that come into play when it comes to adopting new practices and sticking to them in the long run.
Here are the three most common reasons why you can’t stick to certain new practices, routines or rituals.
No 1. Personality
The first one is your personality tendency and, in particular, how you respond to internal and external expectations. In other words, are you more likely to follow through with something if you expect it of yourself or if others expect it from you?
No 2. Perception
The second is your perception of this new practice. If you’re seeing it as boring, tedious, scary, etc… your brain will naturally help you avoid anything that is painful as part of your self-preservation.
No 3. Misalignment
A third aspect is how this new routine or process is aligned with what’s important to you. If it clashes with your values, priorities and strengths, it’s less likely you’ll stick with it.
So one of the questions I ask my clients in such circumstances is:
“What’s your motivation for wanting to stick to this new practice?”Mira Rutter
We dive deeply into what impact achieving the goal of adopting this new practice consistently will have on their life, their business, their loved ones or anyone else that will be affected.
I also probe into what will happen if they don’t become consistent in what they want to achieve? What will be the downside of that not happening for themselves, their life, their business, their loved ones or anyone else impacted.
The Benefits of Getting a 360-degree View
When you get this 360-degree view, you can assess more accurately whether this is a goal worth pursuing or not.
And if it is worth following through, then we find the right way for you to go on about it.
While there could be other things that come into play, these are the three main reasons that most often come up for my clients.
The lady who asked that question found the right answer for herself thanks to my helpful coaching.
She noticed that her aversion towards routines is mainly because she thinks they’re boring.
She’s okay with interesting routines but doesn’t like following processes, step by step stuff, etc, She concluded ideally she’d love to outsource the stuff that is not aligned with her strengths.
As you see, she hit the nail on the head that the things that she doesn’t like and finds boring following are those not aligned with her strengths.
Of course, she’ll put these off. They are not lighting her up! It’s natural that she’d rather do all the other things that she enjoys and is great at.
Now, over to you…
What are some of the practices, routines or processes that you’re struggling to stick to consistently?
Here are some examples of activities and habits that I typically help clients become more consistent with:
- Showing up on social media
- Client attraction activities
- Business organisational activities
- Eating more healthily
- Other self-care practices e.g. meditation, journaling, sleep rituals
Are you finding any of these challenging, too?
Want to turn these around like this awesome lady above?
Book a complimentary no-commitment consultation with me right away before you get swept by daily life and you forget about it.
Remember to share in the note when booking your consultation what practice(s) you’d like help with and let’s have a chat.
Excited to learn more about you and if we’re a good fit to support you in becoming more consistent with the goal you want to achieve for yourself.
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